Monday, August 14, 2017

Monday Mantra: Speak Only If It Improves the Silence

Hi Friends! I'm short on time this week, so I'm bringing back an oldie but a goodie. I believe this is an important reminder we can all benefit from, in one way or another.
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mantra is a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered capable of "creating transformation".

Every Monday I will post a new thought, idea, or focus for the week. When you need a breather from life, when you need a little inspiration, or when you're about to jump over the conference table and strangle your co-worker, remember the mantra.


Monday Mantra: Speak only if it improves the silence



In keeping with the theme of the post today, I will keep this short and sweet in hopes that it improves the silence in your space while you read it. 

When I was studying yoga we learned the phrase, "Speak only if it improves the silence." It had never occurred to me before to not fill those awkward, silent moments with nothing but more silence, as opposed to empty words. Or to not say something in response to a question or a conversation if I truly had nothing worthwhile to say, rather than speaking just so I could fit in, so I could belong to that conversation.

When you bring awareness front and center in your dialogue, you suddenly realize how much more you can contribute by ensuring what you're adding has value.

Remember that words have power. Think of a time someone told you they loved you. How did you feel? Or a time someone said something cruel to you- how did you feel then? Or even those times when the only response you got back was an, "Uh huh, yeah, OK" because the other person wasn't really listening. How did that make you feel? 

Words- They can make someone's day, ruin it, destroy a life, heal a broken heart, or get lost in the sea of too much chit chat. 

Be mindful of what you're saying. Next time you don't have something that will add value, try speaking in silence. See what the silence can do for you instead. 

Friday, August 11, 2017

The Reflection of Shadows: Six Word Poems

The Reflection of Shadows
A collection of moments
Six Word Poems

Have you considered how much can be said with so few words, when worded just so? That's just one reason why I love Smith Six-Word Memoirs. The idea is to create a story using only six words. It's a nice change of pace and forces you to get creative.

Here are some of my six-word mini poem memoirs from over the years.


Googling flame retardant clothing for descent.

Running in circles is my workout.

I have (nothing) good to say.

Always remember the distance you've gone.

Love you, loved you, always will.

Break free from the broken record.

It's hard to be a person.

You inspire a fire within me.

You were designed to be happy.

I respectfully disagree with your disrespect.

The paradise you seek is within.

Unravel the mystery within your history.

Only fire will set me free.

I don't care that you care.

Do not settle for meager dreams.

We won't mistake kindness for weakness.

Walls embrace me, walls will crumble.

I'm an Olympian at conclusion jumping.

You turned our fire into ashes.

My mom visited, my sanity left.

Nine Inch Nails is my caffeine.

Learn the lesson, pass the test.

Let's give them something to remember.

Relighting old flame with new match.

Your apologies expired at midnight, pumpkin.



Monday, August 7, 2017

All Around The World: Honeymooning in Thailand and Hong Kong

Krabi, Thailand

Traveling to Krabi has taught me something important: There are beaches, and then there are beaches. Ones that are formed within volcanic mountains, covered in awe inspiring greenness that take your breath away. Like this:
Hong Island
For our honeymoon, we stayed at the uber luxurious Phulay Bay, also knows as the resort that was rented out for the movie The Hangover Part II. This area of Thailand is incredibly popular in the film industry, so trust me when I say you've seen a lot of these beaches in a slew of Hollywood movies throughout the years.

Phulay Bay Hotel Overview

The grounds are 54 acres with 54 rooms, which means you rarely see other human beings. You know how pools are usually crowded and you run out of lounge chairs? Not here. Phulay Bay (pronounced poo-lay, in case you're curious) has a ginormous pool and, with the low amount of occupants, that means you never run out of anything. I think, at the max, I was sharing it with *gasp* four whole people.

You have plenty of options on-site. There's a temple to check out, a huge gym, a super cute boutique, walking trails galore, a spa, and several restaurants. The resort offers excursion options, some of which are included in the prices, such as a daily trip to Hong Island. The resort, in and of itself, is breathtaking. Absolutely every single inch of it is gorgeous. As are the rooms.

While we were there we stayed in three different villas; it's a long story. Let's just say customer service is top of the line here, people. In one of the villas (which was crazy amazing as it was) there was an electrical problem (that we didn't really care about at all) and they took it upon themselves to move us to their most luxurious room. We're talking The Villa of all Villas.

I can't leave out the beds! It's hard to put into words the luxuriousness that is the Phulay Bay beds, but it's basically like sleeping on giant clouds right from heaven. And I do mean giant. One bed could easily fit ten people, no joke.

On top of that, we had our very own 24/7 butler, Tanya, who was basically there to get us whatever we wanted, when we wanted it, not to mention being our personal chauffeur. Tanya was super sweet and super thoughtful. Ryan got sick one night so we cancelled our dinner plans, and out of the blue Tanya shows up with a hot tea remedy to help him feel better. We could not have asked for a nicer person. We declined a lot of things, like the chauffeuring, but it was nice to know she was there for us.

This is the bathtub of each and every one of my bathtub loving dreams.
The temple.
Making our daily trek to breakfast.
The on-site seafood restaurant.
Beach views everywhere.
Views upon views.

Posers.

Gluten Free Dining at Phulay Bay

Now, for the good stuff. When I travel I don't expect a ton of gluten free options outside of the normal things, like veggies and fruit and meat. Here, almost everything was an option. Breakfast is by far the most magnificent meal of the day. The buffet has endless options and is gigantic. Every day there are new smoothie flavors (shout out to the coconut one, my personal favorite) and - get ready - there's a dedicated gluten free pastry section! Guys...guys...they have mini croissants that are to die for. If I could find a way to get those babies shipped to my house, I would do that on the regular. No joke.

But that's not all...

*sounds of trumpets blaring and angels singing*

...the pastry chef made me gluten free surprises every day. Breakfast quickly became the most important part our day, and I say "our" because this amazing chef would basically make the two of us enough food for a family of four. We would do our damnedest to eat it because he was A) so excited to be making all these GF goodies and B) had put so much thought and time into it, we really didn't want to let him down. I had pancakes, pastries, and waffles galore. On top of that, he'd make it a point to heat up my mini-croissants (and any and all other GF pastries he had) every morning. I love him, obviously.

This man went above and beyond, and if I had any say, he would be making a gazillion dollars because he has earned it. I don't know what his secret is to making everything taste amazing, but the food I ate was hands down some of the most delicious gluten free baked goods I've ever had. Seriously, you guys. I'm trying to figure out how I can get back there on a regular basis just for breakfast.

New smoothie flavor every day.

The gluten free breakfast section. Just some of the options you get.

Things to Do

Located about 20 minutes away is Krabi Town. Here you will find really cute shops with awesome unique goodies to take back home. You can also check out all the different tour options to and from the plethora of beaches in this area.

As mentioned above, at the resort they offer daily trips to Hong Island. While other resorts use this island too, it is still far less crowded than almost any other beach option you have. While Hollywood movies have done great things for the economy, they have made visiting the many gorgeous islands somewhat tricky. And yes, I say this knowing I'm a tourist.

The pristine beaches from the movies are no longer so pristine. If my research serves me correctly, Thailand officials have started shutting down islands to everyone except locals because of how badly the islands are getting destroyed. This is why I really appreciated Hong Island. It's a limited amount of people, for a limited amount of time, which helps keep it clean and usable.

One of the things we opted to do was go kayaking through the volcanic canyons and into the mangrove forest. We went at low tide, possibly the lowest it can go, so we had quite the adventure. Our guide was pretty excited to take us down any and all paths he could find that were normally blocked off with water. We got stuck on the ocean floor, went deep into the mangrove forest, and got to hang out with some very acrobatic monkeys. It was perfect.

Hong Island.
And more Hong Island.
Kayaking adventures.
Getting lost in the mangroves on purpose.
Here's some more shots of the gorgeous Krabi area. Can you say holy sunset, because damn!






Bangkok, Thailand

While we didn't go to Bangkok on this trip, we were there last year for a quick stop and, clearly, it has some awesomeness to offer. We stayed right next to the very popular Khao San Road where you can literally find anything and everything you will ever need, including at least a dozen tattoo parlors. You know, in case you want a face tattoo.

I highly recommend grabbing yourself a coconut ice cream from one of the street vendors. They come in the shell of a coconut with peanuts sprinkled on top!

There's a lot of shopping damage to be done, so pace yourselves. I snagged some seriously awesome tank tops for a whopping $2 each. Super comfy and with a variety of cool designs.

There are temples galore to see all over Bangkok. Wat Pho has a rather impressive giant reclining golden Buddha that's worth a trip.

From a food perspective, dining GF wasn't really a challenge because of the huge variety of restaurants in the area. Anything with rice and meat and you're good to go!




One thing I would highly recommend is going to check out Ancient Siam; a huge park decked out to resemble all of Thailand. It's about an hour from the city, but it is so worth it. We rented bikes and spent the day taking in all the sights as we peddled around the massive park.





Hong Kong

We had a two day stop over in Hong Kong, which was just the right amount of time for what we wanted to do while visiting this awesome city. We stayed at the Ritz Carlton, the world's tallest hotel. Ooo-ahh, right? The views were pretty spectacular and the hotel staff was very welcoming, as you can see.



Gluten Free Dining

We treated ourselves to a fancy dinner at Tin Lung Heen, a Michelin starred Cantonese restaurant located within our hotel. Gluten free dining was not a problem in the slightest and - bonus - they send you home with cute little boxes of their house green tea.

We also did a special afternoon tea tasting at Tosca (also within the hotel). This was, hands down, one of my all time most awesome tea tasting/eating/wow-ing moments. I contribute a lot of that to the fact that they easily accommodated my gluten allergy for all the treats by creating this amazing custom tasting for us. Tasting really isn't even the right word. There was a boat load of food. It was more of a tea feast, if we're keeping it real.

NoodleMi is a great inexpensive choice while you're out around town. The menu is uber GF freindly and I got to have egg rolls, you guys. That never happens! Grassroots Pantry is a suuuuuuper healthy restaurant you can check out, too.

Tea tasting at Tosca.
Grassroots Pantry

Things to Do

Hong Kong reminds me of New York City, but with even more luxury shopping everywhere you turn and a metro system that drops you off right smack in the middle of any of the dozens of malls. What I'm saying is, if you love to shop Hong Kong is your place. That being said, I had a hard time finding stores that I didn't have back home, but I luckily stumbled upon K-11; the coolest mall in all of Hong Kong (if you ask me.) K-11 is comprised of several floors, each with a theme. For instance, the bottom floor is called "Dress Up Island" as most stores have beauty products and fashion accessories. There are also some incredibly awesome/weird/funky chairs that you should check out on this floor in particular. We spent a lot of time twirling around in these babies.



The Peak is pretty cool to check out for views, plus shopping and this very cool 3D photo room, where you can take fun pictures like this:


The Symphony of Lights show at Victoria Harbour was nice, but I must admit it wasn't that spectacular. If you're only there for a couple of days and are trying to figure out what to do, don't worry if you skip this.

Getting around is easy with the metro. Sheung Wan Station is a solid stop with a lot to check out, such as Hollywood Road. There are quite a few stores and places to eat, plus some awesome graffiti.

Views from The Peak.
Symphony of Lights show at Victoria Harbour. 
Views from the Ritz Carlton. 




Travel Tip: This was definitely a trip we splurged on, but it was still affordable because of our memberships. Always, always, always have memberships with hotels and airlines and - most importantly - be loyal to those programs. Learn them, understand them. Membership at one place means you get to use the benefits of their affiliates, for instance, the Oneworld alliance program. The points and miles add up to huge rewards. Our flights were free and we got to experience some of the best room options available simply because of our membership status with the hotel line. Traveling a lot adds up! 

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Friday, August 4, 2017

The Reflection of Shadows: Promises

The Reflection of Shadows
A collection of moments
Promises

When the days are long,
When the nights pass by,
When we don't agree,
Don't see eye to eye,
When sorrow comes,
And the good times lapse-

You and I remain.
Our love will last.


Monday, July 31, 2017

Monday Mantra: On Becoming

mantra is a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered capable of "creating transformation".

Every Monday I will post a new thought, idea, or focus for the week. When you need a breather from life, when you need a little inspiration, or when you're about to jump over the conference table and strangle your co-worker, remember the mantra.


Monday Mantra: And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. - Anais Nin
Society6
Veronika Weroni Vajdova

I remember wanting to be a singer.

A pirate.

A teacher.

A tiger trainer and a tornado chaser.

I remember wanting to be a Powerball winner so fiercely that it became a career in and of itself in my mind, when growing up and moving away all seemed too hard and too scary.

I remember wanting to become versions upon versions of myself.

How becoming a yoga teacher turned into becoming a wellness practitioner and how that led to a desire to be a doctor.

How that never happened.

How I had to realize the harsh reality of time. So much, so little, so precious. How I had to determine where to put my energy, and why.

I've considered the energy I've already spent on so many other things that intrigued me:

Sign language.
Piano.
Karate.

The dream of becoming an architect.

The year in high school where I worked out a deal so I could take two classes at the same time; the one I was required to take and the drafting class I desired so that I could become the next Frank Lloyd Wright. The 20 minutes every morning that I was allowed in drafting class to learn and practice. My friend, Brian, helping me understand all the other pieces to it that I didn't get because I was never really there. The AutoCAD LT program we installed on my home computer so I could practice.

The moment I gave up on that dream.

The many, many, many years spend studying psychology. The master's degree I now need to complete if I want to fully turn that goal into an accomplishment.

The other dreams. The bigger, the bolder, the further out of reach only because they mean that much more. The ones that not only require hard work and natural talent, but luck. Pure and simple luck. The things I still want to be, the things I'm 'being' right now on my own, by myself, in my own way.

A photographer.
A traveler.
A writer.

The dream I've had the longest, the fiercest, the most desired but the most terrifying and seemingly out of reach:

A poet.

And now, right now, the designer. The one who decorates houses and plans events and believes that there is an unparalleled beauty in finding the exact right way a vase should be placed on a table with a frame. The colors, the spaces between spaces- the belief that all of it matters.

Under all of these dreams and hopes and plans, there is the me that exists. The business me, who for the last 16 years has spent her time building a career she never actually planned, but that found her nonetheless. The me that is a dog mom, a wife, a sister, a daughter, a friend.

Somewhere, out in the not so far away future, there lies a new me.

A business owner, a mom- to dogs and people. An older, wiser, and still desiring of everything me that wants all of my past dreams- and so much more.

This is a list of who I am, who I've been, who I am yet to become. A tally of adventures, journeys, and discoveries.

I'm embracing all of this, more than this, myself. I'm learning what it means to become yourself year by year, path by path.

Becoming who you are meant to be is difficult, beautiful, confusing, time consuming...worth it. It is all encompassing and all empowering. It is realizing you are blue one day, then yellow the next. That you are red, green, and purple. That you are all the colors of the rainbow because you never were and never will be just one thing.

That you are capable.

That life is both infinite and finite.

That you will have accomplishments and failures, triumphs and defeats. That all of these things are okay, acceptable, normal.

That we are all trying: to succeed, to figure it out, to become.

The path to the best version of yourself may not always be clear, straight, and well lit. You may need to start over, change course, turn around. You may even need to bring matches to burn the bridges you've crossed; let them turn to ash.

Your journey to becoming is all this and more.

Your path is a path worth taking.


Friday, July 28, 2017

The Reflection of Shadows: I am the Light

The Reflection of Shadows
A collection of moments
I am the Light

I am the distance, I am the sea.
No boat that you charter will ever reach me.

I'm unknown and unchained- a cage will not hold
The breaker of boundaries, the healer of souls.

I'm forbidden in trickery and you are aware;
I will not be caught by a lie or a snare.

I'm a song that's unsung, a language unwritten-
You'll understand only when you've truly committed.

You will keep crossing fine lines 'til you see-
My arrival comes only when you're ready for me.

My name is Love and I dwell in your soul.
I long for the moment you'll let me unfold.

As long as you let me, as long as I might,
I'll vanquish your fears; I'll restore your life.


Monday, July 24, 2017

Monday Mantra: Life Rules to Remember

mantra is a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered capable of "creating transformation".

Every Monday I will post a new thought, idea, or focus for the week. When you need a breather from life, when you need a little inspiration, or when you're about to jump over the conference table and strangle your co-worker, remember the mantra.


Monday Mantra: #12. You are enough
Society6
Jenna Kutcher
1. Setbacks will happen. That's OK- and sometimes good for you.

2. Running away from your feelings burns zero calories and wins you no medals.

3. It will be hard at times. It will be worth it.

4. Love yourself first. Every other love worth having will follow.

5. Don't forget to be thankful for absolutely everything you have been given. You never know when something might be taken away.

6. Water and sleep are two of the most powerful health weapons within your control. Use them.

7. Your life will be significantly easier if you embrace change.

8. Your happiness or sadness increases or decreases depending on which you focus on the most.

9. THIS is temporary.

10. Ignore everything that feels wrong, sounds stupid, or makes you uncomfortable. What's meant for you will feel good right from the start.

11. Nothing is set in stone. 

12. You are enough. 

13. Your body is temporary. Your mind will forget. But the kindness you show to others will last forever.

14. When you are the most terrified, that is when you must leap.

15. Do not forget those who have come before you; the brave, the determined, the fighters of freedom and justice and truth. The ones who sacrificed so much for so many. Your time will come, and when it does, be ready for battle. The fight is never over. There is always, always, always something worth fighting for.

Friday, July 21, 2017

The Reflection of Shadows: I am the Dark

The Reflection of Shadows
A collection of moments
I am the Dark

I am the dark, the revenge, the unknown.
The bump in the night, the chill in your bones.

I'm made of nothing, but I make you whole.
I fill up the cracks that have formed in your soul.

I'm stealthy and secret- just out of your grasp,
You'll know that I'm here only once I've attacked.

I live in the mind and I live in the heart.
I'll wander your body; I will leave a mark.

I thrive in suspense and I thrive in the night.
I want you to wonder when I might arrive.

My name is Fear and I love what you hate.
I live for the moments I keep you awake.

As long as you let me, as long as I might,
I'll conquer your spirit; I'll ruin your life.