Monday Mantra: On the inside / Zero is not a size

A mantra is a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered capable of "creating transformation".

Every Monday I will post a new thought, idea, or focus for the week. When you need a breather from life, when you need a little inspiration, or when you're about to jump over the conference table and strangle your co-worker, remember the mantra.

Monday Mantra: Where are you the most beautiful? On the inside

It's been a while since I've written with careless abandon. I've been more cautious with my words, more timid with my sharing of thoughts. I catch myself questioning what I want to say. I felt a need to build a safety net of sorts around myself. And that meant being a little less me than normal. That little less bothers me…a lot.

In an attempt to be a lot more of me, I'm pushing myself. To try harder, to live once again with a more open heart, to have more fun in the ways I have fun, and to not shrink back from what other people think about what I think. Ultimately, I'm trying to Be More Me.

It's funny how much you can change over time. I think back to a version of myself 10 years younger who was so hell bent on Making It In Life that it never occurred to me to care that much about others opinions of me. Not that I didn't think about it, because I did, but I cared far more about what I thought about me than about what they thought of me. Somewhere along the road that all changed. That change is the problem.

Part of the problem is the world, part of the problem is how easily it affects me. And everyone, really. The images on blast constantly of what we should look like, what we have to do to look like that, what we should spend our money on to get to that visual, and how then we should act after we do all of that- it's overwhelmingly exhausting.

The other day I found this article of a father writing to his daughter of what beauty really is. Not a makeup bottle, a magazine cover, someone else's opinion of you, or the size of your clothes. It's on the inside. It's your heart, your inner goodness, the value you add to the world by your actions.

Then I ran across this old but lovely picture of Sophia Bush back from her One Tree Hill days and the campaign against eating disorders- Zero is not a Size. I adore Sophia Bush, not just for her awesome acting skills, but for her awesome human being skills. Not only is she truly fighting the good fight against eating disorders in real life, she's also out there saving animals, saving the world, fighting for equality, and demonstrating what it is to be a strong and beautiful woman through her actions. We need more role models like her in the world.

We need to be those role models. For ourselves, our friends, our family, our children.

February 23 - March 1 is National Eating Disorders Awareness Week. Go here to find more information on helping yourself or helping someone you love with an eating disorder.

Also, take a moment to read the article the father wrote to his daughter and let it all soak in. Repeat his words to yourself when you're having a moment of self doubt or self criticism.

Where are you the most beautiful? 

On the inside.

On the inside is what counts.

Monday Mantra: Dark Moments

A mantra is a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered capable of "creating transformation".

Every Monday I will post a new thought, idea, or focus for the week. When you need a breather from life, when you need a little inspiration, or when you're about to jump over the conference table and strangle your co-worker, remember the mantra.

Monday Mantra: I have dark moments to remember

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Far too often, usually when everything is going well, I’ll hit some small, very minor bump in the road and panic. I’ll over think and over analyze every little detail. It won’t matter if it was a bad moment, a bad day, or a bad week. In my mind, for that time frame, it was the most horrible thing to have ever happened to me in life. 

Thinking like that is the problem. 

When I find myself in a downward spiral like that, I think back to my actual bad days. My darkest hours of all the hours I’ve spent on this earth. I think of the sadness, the pain, the heavy hearted air to everything. 

While that may sound depressing, it is actually very uplifting. Remembering those truly dark moments keeps me honest with myself, accountable, aware. It helps to keep things in perspective. It helps me stay true to the minor moments that don’t actually matter. 

I am thankful for the darkness because it makes me appreciate the light, the dawn, the dusk of everything.

In the World of Wellness: Move If You Wanna

Wellness is a term widely used that has multiple meanings around health and positive life style changes leading to well-being. Here we will use the term "wellness" as a means of defining a life free from disease as well as a way to explore alternative medicines, what they offer, and what this could mean for you.

Every month I'll do a post on a health and wellness related topic. This will give you a chance to explore other options, become informed, and make the best overall decision for your own well-being.

In the World of Wellness: Just 10,000 steps to a healthier you

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Several months ago I signed up for a work competition which involved walking at least 56,000 steps a week. Since 10,000 steps a day is the recommend amount for an active, healthy lifestyle, I wanted to up my game and help me get to the coveted 70,000 steps per week. To help aid in my tracking of this, I did extensive research between the leading brand names in activity trackers. It came down to either the Jawbone Up or the Fitbit Flex. After reading many, many, many, many articles and reviews, I purchased the Flex.

For those of you who are debating, I'll help lay out my decision on why I went with this one so you don't have to do nearly the amount of research I did. While the Jawbone Up definitely has better technology (not by a lot, but better) and while it's sleeker looking and the bands don't stand out as much on your wrist, the cons outweighed the benefits- for me, anyway.

The Flex syncs up right to my phone, so I never have to plug anything in to see how well I'm doing. The Jawbone Up, on the other hand, requires you to take it off and plug it into your phone. While this means I have to charge my Flex every 7 days or so, I still much prefer the ease of tracking at a glance. The Flex band is soft and comfortable to wear and sleep in, while the Jawbone Up felt a little heavier and more restrictive on my wrist. The ultimate deciding factor, however, was the user reviews. The Jawbone tends to have a lot of issues breaking, in a variety of ways. Mostly what I read was that it either stops working or the band falls apart. A lot. Within a short amount of user time. I couldn't find nearly as many issues with the Flex and, after having one for almost 5 months now, I can say I haven't had one single problem. Additionally, it's $20-$30 cheaper (depending on where you purchase it), and all I really wanted was to see how much I moved in a day without clipping something to my waist, so the Flex was the perfect fit. I do want to point out that trackers that clip to your waist tend to be the most accurate of any option out there. Annoying, but highly accurate.

The cool thing about Fitbit is that they've been around for a while and have a variety of products and, most recently, released the Force, which shows data right on your wrist instead of having to look at your phone anytime you want to see how well you've done. They also just released a new color, violet, to the collection of wristbands you can get to hold your device. Better than all of that, however, they are working on a designer series of bands by Tory Burch so it no longer looks like you're a prison inmate. Check this out. Much, much better.

Now, the more important thing, why 10,000 steps a day? We've all heard about this daily target, but why this specific number? Well, my friends, a doctor in Japan came up with the daily target decades ago when he was trying to understand the difference between being considered an active person vs. an inactive person. He determined that the average person walks somewhere between 3,000 to 5,000 steps a day and that, by increasing their steps to 10,000 a day, they could burn roughly 20% more calories. Not only that, those extra steps help reduce the risk of heart disease and, of course, lead to a slimmer waistline. Additionally, the dangers of sitting have been a new hot topic that everyone from Dr. Oz to the Huffington Post has been reporting on. By walking those 10,000 steps you help reduce the risk of inactivity caused by desk jobs and coach potato-ness. It's a win-win.

I recall this being a topic of discussion back in my nutrition school days as well. When the health of Japan was compared to the overall health of America, it was seen that the Japanese lead a healthier lifestyle through their diet and activity choices. Activity wise, they walk further distances that most Americans do on a daily basis. In fact, most other countries lead more active daily lives than we do. In many other countries people walk or even bike to work. Some countries, such as Denmark or the Netherlands, even use bikes as one of their main forms of transportation.

While this isn't always feasible for us in the states, we can try and make it a goal to walk the suggested 10,000 steps a day. I've found that the Flex does a tremendous job of keeping me motivated toward this goal. I'll admit, I don't hit the 10,000 mark every single day, but I generally hit the 70,000 steps per week by having some days where I'm more active than others. As long as I get to that 70k mark, I feel pretty good about the week.

If you're new to this 10,000 steps thing, start small. Aim for 6000 steps a day at first, then 8,000. Work your way up to 10,000. And if you have a busy schedule like me, see how well you do week over week. You may have slower days, but you'll probably find that the busier days help balance you out.

Whatever you do, and whatever tracker you decide to go with, have fun with it. It's a tool to help you establish a new awareness of how much you move.

All Around the World: Arizona

Wanderlust: A very strong and irresistible impulse or desire to travel the world.

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Arizona

When I thought about doing a series on travel, putting Arizona on my list of Great Places To Go never occurred to me. Mostly because I live here and I do tend to think other places are more exciting, but sometimes it takes something small to make you realize how wrong you are.

Let's get the vibe going, ladies and gentlemen. Play this video song while you read. Also, watch the pictures in it. That's a lot of multi-tasking, but I believe in you.

I've lived in Arizona my whole life. I grew up in a teeny, tiny town called Payson, two hours away from the heat of the valley (Phoenix) and the cold of the snow (Flagstaff). This is probably my favorite thing about Arizona: the ability to go from desert, cactus, and heat to pine trees, snow, and lakes all in under four hours, all within the same state.

One of my most favorite places in the whole world is Jerome. Jerome is an old mining town/ghost town, where artists of all kinds set up shop, as well as some very famous musicians. Maynard James Keenan, anyone? Yep, he loves Jerome too. He has Caduceus Cellars, a pretty fancy schmancy wine store, and Puscifer, a little store with some weird things. Maynard fans will know what I mean.

Anyway, I've been going to Jerome since I was a baby. I love the eeriness of it. I love the motorcycle bars and the park that sits above these giant staircases. I love the winding road, the back alleys full of weeds, and my favorite place to eat there, The Asylum, part of the Jerome Grand Hotel. Yes, the food is great, but what's better is the atmosphere and the history. The Asylum is perched high on the hill and was formerly a hospital before it shut down due to the end of the mining operation. Thanks to its origins, many people believe the hotel is haunted. I've been there at least a dozen times and one very specific time I was pretty darn sure I was not alone even when I was alone. You get what I mean. It was creeptastic.

Not only can you go get yourself scared half to death, but you can go on a tour of the old mines with the Gold King Mine Museum. I will say that this tour has changed significantly over the years. There used to be a lot more to it than there is now. Before, you could walk into some of the old buildings that now, you can only see from a distance. They are old though, so I'm sure this is a safety thing. There used to be a larger trail to follow that even took you to a hermits cave, but that closed down a while ago. It's still fun in a junkyard kind of way.

A short drive from Jerome and you're in my next favorite place, Sedona. This little town is famous for all kinds of things. For it's red rocks, for the psychics and vortexes, for it's overall awesomeness. I highly recommend Pink Jeep Tours, if you go there. It helps to have a fun driver, but basically you go off-roading, up and down some very steep hills, while you get to check out the amazing scenery. And it is amazing. Just look. Ooo, ahh.

Sedona also houses a little place called Tlaquepaque. Got that? Tuh-law-key-paw-key. It's home to artists and art galleries galore, and my favorite little seashell store. While you're in Sedona, book yourself a horseback riding tour. You'll get some great old horse named Lady and you'll mosey along a very beautiful trail in the mountains, with a walk through a river and a picnic lunch. Mighty nice, if I do say so myself.

What else does Arizona have? I lamely just found out we also have one of the most beautiful canyons in the world- Antelope Canyon. All these years I've seen pictures of this place and never even knew it was here. Dummy. But I'm planning a trip now to go see this for myself. Check it out. It doesn't even look real, but it is.

Arizona has a lot of beautiful, wonderful, great places to visit. Tucson is great for the music scene, Flagstaff is home to lakes, snow, hiking trails, and the Lowell Observatory. Let's not forget the Grand Canyon, of course. Payson, my hometown, has more antique stores than is sanely possible to contemplate, given its size. Seriously. There are like 22 of them. Phoenix and it's neighbors (Chandler, Mesa, Gilbert, Scottsdale, etc.) have shopping and restaurants galore, which brings me to gelato. When you live in an oven 6 months out of the year, you need gelato. I would now like to introduce you the best gelato in the entire world: Frost.

Best in the world, you say? Yes. Here's why I, and others, confidently say this. First of all, I've tried gelato in 21 different countries, repeatedly in Italy even. I'm not bragging, I'm just making my case. You would think Italy would beat everyone out, but no. This is the best gelato IN THE WORLD. Another reason why? The former head master (head chef/guy in charge of gelato/whatever) of the gelato institute of Italy owns it. Yep. He retired and decided to open his own chain of gelato stores. This explains why gelato in Italy doesn't compare to gelato here. He must have taken his secret recipes with him. Oh man, is it good. It's so creamy and yummy and there's so much to choose from, and it's gluten free, and the samples...

Sorry, sorry. I'm getting hungry. Moving on.

As mentioned earlier, I had not originally planned on an Arizona post. So what changed my mind?

A sunset.

From every country I've ever visited and every sunset I've ever seen, none compare to what I have here at home. Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of beautiful sunsets, they're just not Arizona sunsets. We are blessed with some of the most vibrant colors in the world. Almost every single night the sky lights up with flames of red and orange, and as we approach the darker hours the shades turn to rich purples and blues. I am constantly in awe of the sky. Constantly. This is what I get to see every day.

This all by itself is one heck of a reason to come visit. I'm sure I've missed mentioning some other great places, but come visit Arizona and I'm sure you'll find an adventure wherever you choose to go. Just don't come in, say, July. Or August. Or June, even. It's seriously hot as hell during the summer.

P.S. There's still time to participate in the Pay it Forward initiative! Email me a list of your favorite things (books, bacon, whiskers on kittens and dewdrops on roses) and I'll pick five people at random to get some free stuff  sent to them over the course of this next year from yours truly. Maybe it will even be stuff from Sedona. Who knows. That's all part of the fun with these random acts of kindness.

But seriously people, join in. I love shopping. And you get to participate too. See? Good things all around. Email chantellesaysblog@gmail.com. Do it. You know you want to.

P.P.S. I found all of these pictures on Google and they are not mine. Whoever they truly belong to, good job. They're awesome.

Monday Mantra: Make Your Actions Count

A mantra is a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered capable of "creating transformation".

Every Monday I will post a new thought, idea, or focus for the week. When you need a breather from life, when you need a little inspiration, or when you're about to jump over the conference table and strangle your co-worker, remember the mantra.

Monday Mantra: Make Your Actions Count. Pay it forward

Recently, this little message went viral on Facebook:

To start this year off right, I'm participating in a pay-it-forward initiative: the first five people to comment on this status with "I'm in" will receive a surprise from me at some point this year- anything from a book, a ticket, something homemade, a postcard, absolutely any surprise! There will be no warning, and it will happen when the mood comes over me and I find something that I believe would suit you and make you happy. *these five people must make the same offer in their Facebook status and distribute their own joy. Copy this onto your own profile (don't share).

My reaction: YAY/Finally/THIS. IS. AWESOME!

And: Why didn't I think of this/why didn't I do this sooner/I'm an idiot!

When I first saw the movie, Pay It Forward, not only did I turn into a puddle of tears, but I also felt this sense of wonderfulness and awe at such a simple idea. Such a simple act of kindness. If you haven't seen the movie I highly suggest you do, but I'll give you a quick run down on it. In the movie, a little boy sets out to do something helpful for three people with the agreement that they then would each need to do something for another three people. Each person that helps someone must Pay It Forward to someone else. The thought is that by passing along an act of kindness to someone and then tripling it, eventually the whole world will be helping each other out.

To honor my Facebook agreement, I'm offering this up to you. 

Send an email to me at chantellesaysblog@gmail.com and include a short list of some of your favorite things, hobbies, etc. Maybe you like going to the movies, maybe you like rap music, or tea or poems, or pina coladas and getting caught in the rain…whatever your thing is, tell me a little about yourself so I'll have a good idea of what you might like. At random, I will pick 5 names and, over the course of this next year, I'll send each person a surprise. I'll announce the winners names in a future post and will reach out to them for addresses to mail the surprises to. Some of my best shopping is done on trips to other countries so you may even get something from one of those trips!

But of course, in return, you have to Pay It Forward. You can take the above message and copy it to your Facebook account or email a group of friends (whatever you want, whatever works for you) but you have to Pay It Forward.

I'm excited to start this Pay It Forward journey with you. Let's have fun and change the world together with our random acts of kindness.

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In the World of Wellness: Amen to Oils

Wellness is a term widely used that has multiple meanings around health and positive life style changes leading to well-being. Here we will use the term "wellness" as a means of defining a life free from disease as well as a way to explore alternative medicines, what they offer, and what this could mean for you.

Every month I'll do a post on a health and wellness related topic. This will give you a chance to explore other options, become informed, and make the best overall decision for your own well-being.

In the World of Wellness: Oils: Not just for food

Not too long ago I read this article in Cosmo and, much like the writer says about the oils, the article changed my life. I won't re-write what she said because the article is of course what inspired me to share this with all of you, but to sum it up, the author writes about her experience switching from face moisturizers to oils of all kinds.

This practice of using oil for skincare is nothing new, yet somehow it's been somewhat of a secret and has just recently grown in popularity.

While I already have more coconut oil that is humanly sane and plenty of essential oils, including the Kama Ayurveda oil I mentioned a while ago, which I still love, I hadn't really branched out from using those.Therefore, I had to go on an oil shopping spree to put her article to the full test.

I went and bought as many oils as I could find: Avocado, Apricot, Grape seed, Argan, Nighttime Baobab, Soothing Tamanu (both by Aura Cacia), and my now favorite, Seaberry by Fresh.

Ohmygoodness. How had I not done this before? Every morning and night I would try a new oil on my face and see this almost immediate glow. I stopped using my nighttime moisturize because it seemed like overkill and most days, I don't use any moisturizer during the day either. The oils (along with some sunscreen, put on prior to them) are all I need. I will note that eye cream is still essential. Getting the oils too close to the eyes tends to bring on blurry vision for the rest of the day. Not that I accidentally did that or anything.

During this time of transition from moisturizers to oils I also went and got a facial, to see if a professional would notice the difference I thought I was seeing. I will say, I'm blessed to have great skin thanks to my mom, but even with that, the last time I had a facial my skin was pretty dry and lacking luster. This time, not the case. I go to a local natural aesthetics school, SWINA, and with that you always get a student and an instructor looking at your skin. This time, both of them were blown away by how great it looked. Honestly, I've never gotten so many compliments on my skin in under 60 seconds before. And that wasn't all. Later on I heard the instructor right out my door going on and on about my face to someone else. It's clear that the ancient practice of using oils for skincare is life (and skin) changing.

If you read the Cosmo article, please note I didn't try the oils she lists at the bottom. I did try the Josie Maran argan oil she liked, but I was more impressed with Acure pure essential argan oil.

The best thing about the oils is that they last a long time because you only need a few drops. Also, I think it's important to call out some comments left on the Cosmo article. Many of the readers said they also wash their hair with oils and have other skin and body care uses that sounded pretty darn amazing.

My suggestion? Join the oil club. You will not regret it. In fact, I think you'll find your daily skincare routines to be far more exciting and luxurious.


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Monday Mantra: Watch Your Words

A mantra is a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered capable of "creating transformation".

Every Monday I will post a new thought, idea, or focus for the week. When you need a breather from life, when you need a little inspiration, or when you're about to jump over the conference table and strangle your co-worker, remember the mantra.

Monday Mantra: Watch what you say, how you say it, and who you say it to

It seems to me that people are always pointing out the flaws in life, in other people, in society. "Flaws" I hadn't noticed before. They don't realize that sometimes it's better not to see them. That not knowing is peaceful. Because when I don't see them, I don't care, I don't judge, I don't compare. I don't know I'm supposed to.

I think of a younger me. A young girl who didn't understand what cellulite or stretch marks were, what wrinkles meant to youth, or how the weight of someones body could determine if they were either beautiful or ugly. A young girl who was better off not being aware of these so called flaws and the labels of good/bad/ugly that have been attached to them.

I talked about this last week, with #14- Reshape the Future - but it's so important that I wanted to go over it one more time. 

People are impressionable, regardless of their age. What you say to someone will stick with them longer and cut them deeper than you could ever possibly imagine. Wars are fought over words, are they not? That's how powerful they are.

With awareness, compassion, and a new way of thinking, we truly can reshape the future. We can stop finding the "flaws" and start finding the beauty. We can teach the next generation of children that they are good enough. We still need to teach ourselves that, in the process. 

Let's change the world, my friends, one kind word at a time. Who's with me?

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Monday Mantra: 14 Things To Do To Change Your Life

A mantra is a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered capable of "creating transformation".

Every Monday I will post a new thought, idea, or focus for the week. When you need a breather from life, when you need a little inspiration, or when you're about to jump over the conference table and strangle your co-worker, remember the mantra.

Monday Mantra: Change your life, change the lives of others

Sunrise at Mt. Batur
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The year has begun and with it, resolutions galore. Here are 14 things you can do to make not only your life better, but the lives of others as well.

1. Be confident
Time and time again I've heard this little saying: Confidence is the sexiest thing a person can have. Guess what? It's true. It's also free of charge, requires little maintenance, and never goes out of style. Think of someone you know who exudes confidence. I image they're fun to hang out with, someone you turn to for advice, and are capable of making everyone feel comfortable because they, in turn, are comfortable in their own skin.

Be yourself and be confident in who you are.

2. Be humble
This might sounds as if it's the complete opposite of #1, but it's not. You should never have to give up your self-confidence in order to be humble. In fact, the more confident you are in yourself, the easier it is to give praise to others. Humble people appear friendlier, more approachable, and easier to interact with than those with an arrogant attitude. Besides, when was the last time you enjoyed a conversation with someone who did nothing but talk about themselves the whole time? I'm betting never.

3. Burn your candles, wear your jewelry, etc. etc. etc.
All too often when I buy something for myself or get a present from someone else I keep it safe and sound in its packaging, staring at it and loving it from afar. Why? Because I'm dumb. I worry about damaging it, as if the new scarf a friend bought me is made of glass or because that pretty bracelet my mom gave me might get banged up at some point. You'd think I was a professional wrestler or the female version of Bear Grylls, flinging myself from airplanes and scaling dangerous mountains, but no. I worry for no reason. Things will get worn out. We will get worn out. That's just life. It's a waste of having something if you don't enjoy it. Use it or give it to someone who will reap more pleasure from it than you ever did.

4. Figure out what you can contribute to the world 
Every once in a while I stumble along an article that makes me re-think myself. This one did that. What do I put into the world that makes me worthwhile to others? Read this with an open mind and think over what the author is saying. He makes a lot of sense. Then think about what skills you contribute to the world and get out there and start contributing!
6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person

5. Be a champion of good character
Character is defined as "the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual." Take a moment and think that over. Think about the qualities that are distinctive to you. Do you like them? How do your qualities make you feel? How do your qualities make others feel?

My specific point on this one is that too often it seems that we, as a whole, have lost the ability to Follow the Golden Rule, say "please" and "thank you", and show respect for others. Too many times we're in a competition to one-up someone else and that kind of an attitude makes us lose sight of what matters. A true test of someones character, in my opinion, is how they treat the wait staff at restaurants.  If there isn't a thank you after they fill the water glass or check on the meal or do any damn thing for you, I question their attitude of gratitude. Namely, that they don't have one. Don't be one of those people. Be grateful, be polite, set the example for others.

6. Have daily adventures
Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project, found in her research that doing new things makes you feel happier than sticking with the old, familiar, comfortable things. Changes can be small, like going for a walk somewhere new or trying our a new restaurant. Sounds like fun, right? Fun always generates happy feelings. So shake up your routine. Try something new. Have small daily adventures that lead you to happiness.

7. Fail daily
When did we decide failing was a bad thing? I assume long ago, when someone with a lack of awareness in this area told us we were awful or terrible and that we should quit while we're ahead, all because we failed. They, my friends, were wrong. A long time ago I read The Geography of Bliss, in which the author seeks to understand what makes different nations of people happy. My favorite part of the book is where he goes to Iceland, a country that is dark 6 months of the year, yet incredibly happy. Of the many possibilities why, my favorite is this: they don't think failing is a bad thing. In Iceland it's common for people to have many careers throughout their lives. How else will they find out what they're meant to be, if not by trying out different things until they find the one that suits them? All of this trying, of course, means a lot of failing too.

Failing teaches us what to do next, what not to do, and how to get back up after we fall down. It makes us stronger, more dedicated, and far more wiser. Imagine if our parents had never let us try walking again when we were infants, simply because we failed at it the first time. We'd all be a bunch of ridiculous looking adults, crawling around on the floor right now.

Failing is not the problem. It's the way we view failing that is, as if it's some sort of an epidemic that needs to be stopped. We learn best when we try and when we try we generally fail oh, a few thousand times, until we finally get it right.

Please fail daily. And by that I mean keep trying. Never give up. Try something new and keep going, no matter how hard or how long it takes. Please, please, for the love of everything, fail.

8. Let go once and for all
Holding on to past grudges, to wrongs that have been done to you, to anything at all that is a negative in your life is a waste of your precious time. Every time you bring up an old wound, you bring it into the present. You re-feel the feelings and once again send yourself down that rabbit hole of could've/should've/would've/why?

Knock it off.

Let go of the things that no longer serve you.

9. Define your life
I ran across this article on Elephant the other day and, even though I'm a few weeks late, I still love the idea. Pick one word that sums up 2013 for you. Why did you pick it? What does that word mean to you?

Then pick one word for how you want your 2014 to look. Write this word down and post it where you'll see it every day to help you remember why you selected it and how you can make that word come to life this year.

10. Become a mentally strong person
We can all benefit from being a little more strong, and not just physically. Forbes recently released an article called Mentally Strong People: The 13 Things They Avoid. According to this list, mentally strong people don't complain very often, they don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves, and they don't make the same mistakes. Read it, apply it, strengthen your mental state.

11. Stop the drama
One of my favorite lines ever is from The Help in which, at the end of the movie after Hilly Holbrook stirs up more lies and more drama, Aibileen Clark says, "Ain't you tired Miss Hilly? Ain't you tired?" I love everything about that simple statement- aren't you tired of of all the lies, of all the terrible things you do?

We are all tired of it. From everyone.

Drama is stupid. It's not fun, it's not cool, and it makes you look like a cold-hearted fool. It is pointless. The only good drama is that which is in a movie and that is where it should stay.

Give. It. Up.

12. Don't let the Debbie Downers get you down
You know that friend/co-worker/family member that is constantly complaining about something? It's time to cut them loose. There is no reason at all to put up with their naysaying ways. They will suck the life right out of you and cause you more good than bad. Be done with them.

13. Do something for someone other than yourself
There's not a lot I need to say here because this little picture sums it up nicely.

14. Reshape the future
Last, but certainly not least, read this article (When Your Mother Says She's Fat) and pass it along to every single person you know.

It's our responsibility as human beings to shape this world properly. Every person out there, especially mothers and teachers and people of influence, has a chance to reshape the world.

People are always pointing out the flaws in life, in themselves, in other people. As a child I remember being told what cellulite and stretch marks were and, having never heard of these things before, I had no perception of them, good or bad, until I was told they were awful, terrible, horrible things to have and that if you had them, well then you had a problem.

It is beyond time to stop the self hate. Hasn't it been long enough? Ain't you tired everyone? Ain't you tired?!


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